Some yeas back now I remember my friend David always saying "you can have it all" and although I am the one teaching people how to 'have it all', I had that constant voice in my head that told me I couldn't have it all, or maybe even that shouldn't.
I soon realized that I had hit one of my very own BELIEFS, or as I like to call them: PROGRAMS. Its only a program that you should only follow one career. It's also a program, that you can change careers as often as you like. It's a program that you can do it all at once. The question is: What program or belief do you have or follow?
Once I realised that I was following a belief that wasn't supporting me I decided to change it and suddenly I came across an old technique that I've heard off for so long, that I have been using off and on and to be honest never fully believed in. AFFIRMATIONS!
I always liked the idea of setting intentions and the power of intention had proven to be immense for me, but the idea of repeating a sentence that I quite possibly don't even believe in just didn't click with me.
I had a different belief...
But I had seen it work for so many people around me that I had to give it another shot. So I started monitoring my thoughts and wrote down the reframe of any negative thoughts whenever I could. For instance when I caught myself thinking: 'I should really stick to one career', I wrote down "I can and I should be successful in more than one career at the same time."
Did this feel odd? Absolutely! In fact it felt like a total lie. Oh here is another one that maybe more people can relate to. Have you ever passed a mirror and thought "God I look so old/ugly/fat etc...'?
Exactly. So on my list went: "God, I look beautiful, young and radiant and I get more toned every day..."
Man that was really uncomfortable even writing it down, but I was adamant to give this a real try.
As soon as I found new reframes I made them my mantra all day long. Meaning I was repeating them walking to the train, doing the dishes, being in the shower, you name it. And suddenly things started changing. But at first not in the way I was expecting it. Did I have another belief on how this was suppose to unfold..? 😉
What I noticed at first wasn't that suddenly I felt like a multitasker, having 2 careers unfold, feeling beautiful, young and fit.
The big change was that all the negative self-talk that I was usually doing slowly dropped away.
My new affirmations didn't leave any space for the negative thoughts anymore. From my work as a Trance Coach I knew that our subconscious mind is always listening and if I could stop all that negative chatter, I knew I was already a big step ahead. For me that was the biggest revelation ever.
Positive affirmation don't just create a new reality as I used to think (and doubted) but they become place holders where usually the negative thought processes are being at works.
And suddenly I noticed the changes: I felt happier, more at ease and more trusting that good things would come my way. I was already loving this experiment and kept going and the next thing was that now these affirmations became automatic. When I was eating something that probably wasn't on the top of the list of health foods I now heard myself think: "Enjoy! Whatever I eat is good for me and I love taking care of my body." All of a sudden the pressure was gone, I could do what I liked and yet started liking doing better things for me. Slowly but surely my mindset was changing. And then it clicked:
Of course! This was using self-hypnosis or self trance in order to rewire my brain.
MY BELIEFS WERE CHANGING!
My beliefs about me and life were changing
and as I always say:
When you change your beliefs
you change your results.
So from being one of the biggest sceptics out there, I am now a firm believer in affirmations. Mainly because it is another extension of my trance work and as I said before:
OUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND IS ALWAYS LISTENING
WHAT DO YOU WANT IT TO HEAR?
Suddenly affirmations weren't only possible in my head, they made complete sense to me and I hope they make a little more sense to you now as well. If they feel like a total lie, the more important it is to do them. If they are too far out of your comfort zone you want to soften them a bit and create a bridge from where you are now to where you want to be. Then the magic happens.
Your outer reality will match your inner changes.
Catch your negative thoughts
Reframe them into a positive affirmation
Repeat aloud or even in your head as much as possible (they become the placeholder)
Watch your behaviours and beliefs change
Watch your reality change!
It is such a joyous journey and keep in mind, I didn't really believe it either.
The best part for me is, I hardly have any dark mood days anymore. Where I used to experience them fortnightly, they are now sometimes 4 months apart and you can imagine how that will change your life.
A little trick I have been using personally is something I learnt from Bruce Lipton. I record my affirmations on my phone and listen to that 4 minute loop on my way into town or sometimes have them run in the background. Again, your subconcious is always listening, but this time...
You choose what you want it to listen to...